Sunday, December 28, 2014

Three Proven Qualities of Great Leaders #1 Trust

Three Proven Qualities of Great Leaders #1 Trust
It may sound like a paradox, but a great leader isn't someone who leads. It's someone other people want to follow. This isn't a matter of personal charisma, star power, luck, or ambition. If you expect to lead any group, whether a small team at work or a nation, you will do it best by acquiring real-life skills and applying them. For decades the Gallup Organization, gathering masses of data worldwide, have asked workers what makes a great boss. The top three answers cut through a great deal of the so-called mystery of leadership.
The first factor was trust. "He's looking out for us" is the most basic and important thing that a worker can say about a good boss. In war a soldier's life depends on trusting that the generals in charge can be trusted. All generals give orders that must be followed. Only a few engender the kind of loyalty that sends people into risk and danger.
To follow isn't a matter of blind trust, however. People judge their leaders pragmatically. Ronald Reagan's famous line, "Ask yourself if you are better off today than you were four years ago" was decisive in winning him the Presidency. It won't matter how good you feel you are at leading if your team's wellbeing is on the decline.
It's easy to get carried away by ego--or at the other extreme by insecurity--so step back and consider the ingredients that make other people willing to trust you.

Your actions are consistent
  • Your words match your deeds.
  • You make promises you can keep.
  • You take responsibility for your decisions.
  • You don't backstab or undercut those around you.
  • You don't focus on yourself.
  • You monitor the success and welfare of your cohorts.
  •  You tell the truth.
On any given day you can measure yourself by these criteria. They apply as a parent or as President of the United States. Whatever your self-image may be, these guidelines give you an objective measure of your performance.

There's an opposite to every positive trait, so here's the pattern that failing leaders follow as they cause trust to deteriorate around them.
  • They are fickle and inconsistent. You can't predict what they will say or do tomorrow.
  • They talk the talk but can't be trusted to walk the walk.
  • They are generous with promises but weak on follow through.
  • They make excuses for themselves and pass the blame on to others.
  • They are quick to find a fall guy.
  •  They gossip and backstab, in the belief that remaining on top means creating insecurity among potential rivals.
  • They only care deep down about number one.
  • They only care about the success of those who hang on to their coattails.
  • They adjust the truth according to the situation at hand.
Take some time once or twice a week to perform an honest self-evaluation of how much trust you are actually earning. Making this a habit will serve you well on your path to leadership.

Thanks to Deepak Chopra for the article

Saturday, December 20, 2014

Unless you experience you cannot Appreciate

Unless you experience you cannot Appreciate
A young man went to seek an important position at a large printing company. He passed the initial interview and was going to meet the director for the final in...terview. The director saw his resume, it was excellent. And asked, '
- Have you received a scholarship for school?' The boy replied, " No '.
-' It was your father who paid for your studies? '
-' Yes.'- He replied.
-' Where does your father work? '
-' My father is a Blacksmith'
The Director asked the young to show him his hands.
The young man showed a pair of hands soft and perfect.
-' Have you ever helped your parents at their job? '
-' Never, my parents always wanted me to study and read more books. Besides, he can do the job better than me.
The director said:
-' I have got a request: When you go home today, go and wash the hands of your father and then come see me tomorrow morning.'
The young man felt his chance to get the job was high.
When he returned to his house he asked his father if he would allow him to wash their hands.
His father felt strange, happy, but with mixed feelings and showed their hands to his son. The young washed his hands, little by little. It was the first time that he noticed his father's hands were wrinkled and they had so many scars. Some bruises were so painful that his skin shuddered when he touched them.
This was the first time that the young man recognized what it meant for this pair of hands to work every day to be able to pay for his study. The bruises on the hands were the price that he payed for their education, his school activities and his future.
After cleaning his father's hands the young man stood in silence and began to tidy and clean up the workshop. That night, father and son talked for a long time.
The next morning, the young man went to the office of the director.
The Director noticed the tears in the eyes of the young when He asked him: -' Can you tell me what you did and what you learned yesterday at your house?'
The boy replied: -' I washed my father's hands and when I finished I stayed and cleaned his workshop '
-' Now I know what it is to appreciate and recognize that without my parents , I would not be who I am today . By helping my father I now realize how difficult and hard it is to do something on my own. I have come to appreciate the importance and the value in helping the family.
The director said, "This is what I look for in my people. I want to hire someone who can appreciate the help of others , a person who knows the hardship of others to do things, and a person who does not put money as his only goal in life". ' You are hired '.
A child that has been coddled, Protected and usually given him what he wants, develops a mentality of " I have the right ' and will always put himself first, ignoring the efforts of their parents. If we are this type of protective parent are we really showing love or are we destroying our children?
You can give your child a big house , good food , computer classes , watch on a big screen TV . But when you're washing the floor or painting a wall , please let him experience that too.
After eating have them wash the dishes with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you have no money to hire someone to do this it's because you want to love them the right way . No matter how rich you are, you want them to understand. One day your hair will have gray hair, like the father of this young man.
The most important thing is that your child learns to appreciate the effort and to experience the difficulties and learn the ability to work with others to get things done. "
(Copied from a friend facebook post)